Love is Not Rude
By George Bridges
1 Corinthian 13:5(King James Version)
5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
The word unseemly in this verse is translated as rude. If you look around in your daily life, you will see how people can be so rude to each other. For instance, how many times do you see someone being cut off in a conversation by an outsider who doesn’t even say ‘excuse me’? This can be countered by waiting patiently for the right moment to speak. Consider how often you experience someone taking something from your hand without expressing gratitude, simply snatching it. A simple ‘thank you’ can foster mutual respect and appreciation. Moreover, standing outside someone’s office door when you see they are engaged is inconsiderate. Offering a gentle wave or returning later can show thoughtfulness and courtesy. By adopting these small changes, we can each contribute to a more respectful and kind environment.
The word rude is defined as discourteous or impolite, lacking culture, learning, or refinement, and rough in manners and behavior. To live godly and to walk in love is just the opposite of being rude. As it says in Galatians 5:22-23, the fruits of the Spirit include love, kindness, goodness, and gentleness—qualities that stand in stark contrast to rudeness. We can all learn how to be more mannerly towards others.
There are times when working under a lot of pressure, I tend not to listen to my wife during conversations. If I have some deadlines, I can be rude in our discussions, especially when I am preoccupied with other things. I am learning to pay attention and really listen when we talk now at home, at the dinner table, and while getting ready for work. I encourage you to reflect on your own relationships and consider times when you might have been less attentive or polite to those you care about. Sharing these experiences with others can foster a sense of community and help us all grow together in love and respect.
With all our gadgets, we can be in the presence of someone and tune them out while we read emails, browse the internet, or do whatever we do on our mobile devices. I saw an interesting sign at an office cafeteria that said, “We don’t have WIFI, so talk to each other.” We should get off our devices and talk to each other, especially at home.
It would behoove all of us to get a good book on manners and read it often. I am sure the list of good manners would be helpful, and the list of rude manners would be endless. Let us all ask God to show us the ways in which we are rude and unmannerly, and then ask Him for the grace to change. Consider taking a moment each day to pray for guidance in becoming more loving and considerate. A simple prayer could be: ‘Lord, help me to recognize and change my rude behaviors and fill me with kindness and love for others.’ Alternatively, you might set aside a few minutes each day for a spiritual exercise, such as meditating on a scripture passage about love, which can help keep your heart open and compassionate toward others.
